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Learn the Signs And What You Can Do To Help
In 2015, there were more than 15 reports of domestic violence per day in Delaware.
According to the state’s Domestic Violence Coordinating Council’s 2015 Fatal Incident Review Team Report, there were 5,607 reports of criminal acts between intimate partners were reported, which equals about 15 a day. Overall, there were 13,795 criminal arrests in 2014, nearly 38 a day.
And, the numbers of domestic violence are not decreasing: In 2014, there were 22,663 criminal and non-criminal domestic violence incidents reported in Delaware; in 2015 there were 22,678.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month in Delaware. Both men and women are affected by domestic violence and while it can be scary and devastating, there are resources available to help you and your loved ones.
Interpersonal violence can happen anywhere and at any time to anyone. The victim can be a woman or a man. The victim can be a child or an older adult. The victim can be a same-sex partner. Interpersonal violence recognizes no social, ethnic or economic boundaries. The one thing that they all have in common is that the victim always is intimately involved with the abuser, and the abuser is always controlling and manipulating his or her victim. More than 60 percent of domestic violence happens at home.
And, most domestic violence is never talked about or ever reported.
Many people have the impression that domestic violence refers only to the physical violence against women who are beaten, raped, or murdered. Men also are physically abused. Nationwide, women do experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes by their intimate partners, however men are also victims, experience nearly 3 million physical assaults every year.
Each day, three women are murdered in the U.S. by a current or former male partner. Women with disabilities are 40% more likely to experience intimate partner violence or severe violence, than women without disabilities. Every minute, 20 people are victims of intimate partner violence. A woman is beaten every nine seconds in the U.S.
Abuse is more than physical
As serious as physical violence is, it represents one of the ways that women and men are abused by someone very close to them. Domestic violence includes psychological abuse, sexual abuse and economic abuse. Abusers control their victims by threatening them, manipulating and denigrating them, blaming them, withholding money or access to checking accounts and credit cards, and by isolating them from friends and family.
Abuse starts gradually and usually without the victim knowing that it is happening. Abusers gain the love and trust of a victim early in the relationship. They seem devoted, and that can be flattering to anyone wishing to have a close relationship. When things appear to be going wrong, victims often feel guilty and embarrassed, and don’t want to share their experiences and feelings with others. Once the abuser turns threatening or violent, the victims become too fearful to share any information with others. They fear their lives are in danger, and usually are. These are the forms of domestic violence of which most outsiders are unaware.
Are you in an abusive relationship?
Here are some examples of the types of behavior that an abuser will exhibit. Does the person:
- Constantly monitor where you go?
- Prevent or discourage you from seeing your friends?
- Control how you spend money?
- Decide things for you that you should decide, such as what you should wear?
- Humiliate you in front of friends?
- Forces you to have sex?
- Stop you from using birth control or control the use of birth control?
- Blame you for his or her violent outbursts?
How can we help a victim?
As a support person to a victim of interpersonal violence, other than a child, it is important to remember that the individual is at the greatest risk of death at the time he or she leaves the relationship. You should never coerce someone to leave a violent relationship. Rather, you need to support the person and allow him or her to decide when the time is right. Let the person know privately that you are aware of the situation and want to help. Don’t blame the victim. You can provide information such as hotline numbers, shelters and counseling. Many people who are in domestic violence situations have not been able to make their own decisions within the relationship, so don’t find yourself making decisions for them.
Discuss a safety plan such as:
- Pack a bag and leave it at a friend’s house
- Make sure the victim has a copy of important documents
- Avoid arguments in the kitchen where there are knives and other potential weapons
- Include children in the plan to relocate
- Include pets in a relocation plan, if needed
Here are some important resources of people ready to help.
- 24-hour domestic violence hotline (Kent & Sussex): (302) 422-8058
- Child Abuse hotline: 1-800-292-9582
- State Victim Center: 1-800 VICTIM1
- Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network: 1-800-656-HOPE, https://www.rainn.org/
- Turning Point at People’s Place: (302) 424-2420
- Crossroads of Georgetown: (302) 855-0558
If you feel you are in danger, call 911.
Cheri Will, RN, is the Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Coordinator at Beebe Healthcare. She is available to speak to groups and provide resources to victims. Please feel free to contact her at (302) 645-3311.